🤎this week on the Spoiled Girlie Support Group🤎
nothing! I took a break from the podcast this week and it was so restorative 💆🏽♀️ but now i’m back and doing a BIG episode so stay tuned for that one!
💗meanwhile, in girl world💗
It’s an ideal representation of conflict, a perfect stage for pitting one competitor against another, so it’s no wonder that the game comes to stand in for all sorts of different things off the court. Google tennis metaphor and you’ll learn how marriage is like the call and response of a rally; how business is like trying to find the best angle on your opponent; how in life it’s sometimes important to “come to the net.”
Those who do choose to beget might also adopt this same humility. Bidding someone forth, conjuring a new person from a couple of cells, is an act of tremendous magnitude, one whose meaning is perhaps too great and abstract to grasp or articulate with any precision. Before undertaking it, we should commit to the same unsparing self-examination. This, in the end, is van der Lugt’s request of us: to pose the question of begetting to ourselves, and to answer it for only ourselves.
The New Generation of Online Curators
Digital platforms are largely devoted to making users consume more, faster—think of TikTok’s frenetic “For You” feed or Spotify’s automated playlists. Curators slow down the unending scroll and provide their followers with a way of savoring culture, rather than just inhaling it, developing a sense of appreciation.
📖besties book club📖
Her Body and Other Parties by Carmen Maria Machado
🍵the tea🍵
don’t dim your light for anyone… EVER.
and if they’re asking you to, blind them…
with your light. lol
and honestly, just leave. find the people who will celebrate your light because if you genuinely know that you are living in your light, in your goodness, in your truth… and the people around you are repulsed by that? they’re like little demons scurrying from the light?
you need to leave that space because you will be stuck forever trying to please people who just want to put you in a box and lock you away
how do i know that? well i’ve been there and it sucked. I eventually got out of it and am now embracing my light. it wouldn’t have been possible if i allowed all these people to dim, quash, EXTINGUISH my light.
if the people around you are blinded by your light, move.
find other people with a higher light tolerance.
whenever i hear this advice—don’t dim your light, keep doing you… blah blah blah…
do you know how hard that is if you don’t change the people around you?
and i’m not talking about transforming the same people into another type of people but literally replace them with new people.
by now you’ve heard the saying “your network is your net worth.” and i thought it was just some catchy phrase or whatever but it’s so true… and i’m not talking about money here… like the kind of rich i aspire to be can’t be bought at the store… it’s my own specific brand of a rich life, of a dream life.
and once i started surrounding myself with people who made me feel rich in a holistic sense.
the same food started tasting better, the afternoon light started dancing, sunsets started looking more saturated, music started to move my soul. what a difference it made when i started surrounding myself with people who didn’t hate me and were praying for my downfall.
so whenever you hear this advice—don’t dim your light, you have to follow that up with… MOVE.
move social circles, move cities, move states, move countries. find where people will celebrate you.
you’re not a plant. move!
and even if you do it virtually… move!
consume better aligned media, literally consume what makes you feel celebrated.
i talk about this all the time but i want to talk about it again…
i have been done so bad by so many people because me literally walking into a room saying nothing, irritated their soul… it made the demon stir inside them…
and i was talking about it with one of my girlfriends and she was there when it happened… and this has happened multiple times… and the same girlfriend was witness to this as well…
you know what she called me? she called me an exorcist
and im like…
okay but like… you’re not wrong…
i kid you not… i just walk into a room with people i don’t know… i’ve never met them in my life, they don’t even know my name… they see me… and they get ruffled…
like idk what it is… is it my aura… is it this, is it that?
and i was just stuck in that environment of everyone making themselves small and as a consequence, they want to make small too! like absolutely not!
and second, no… i was born to speak, i was born to think, i was born to share my gifts with others, i was born to shine… we all are…
i’ve been dealing with people trying to dim my light, shut me up, lock me in a box and put me away for such a long time now and i swear to you… never let them win…
never ever dim your light for these people… don’t let them get into your head… and tell you things you are not and things you didn’t do…
first of all, why are you living rent free in their heads? like why are they so obsessed with you?
they really are your biggest fans though when you think about it…
and when they’re done with you, they’ll move onto their next victim
do you see it?
it was never about you. it’s all about them.
and this brings me to why the people closest to you are the ones who want to dim your light
first, it’s because you come from similar places… if you can do and be whatever you do and are… why weren’t they able to do that? like idk sounds like a them problem but they make it a you problem…
and second, you remind them of themselves… and instead of looking within and doing some introspection, because they’re such unaware people, they blame you instead
“you’re the problem, people like you are the problem…” —light-dimmer hater
when the reality is they perceive their life sucks compared to yours because number one, they don’t water their own lawn so the grass is always greener on your side of the fence… and second, let’s be real… sometimes it is all down to luck
they’re blaming you for their unluckiness…
but luck is simply a statistical phenomenon when you consistently think and act a certain way…
you are better than all these haters at manifesting your desires into reality simply because you are the most strategic and the most consistent… also you are on the side of the divine… you are untouchable…
like uh, no… we’re tired of people’s projections. we’re tired of accepting said projections…
don’t they know that if they projected WITHIN, they might actually solve their problems and improve their life?
no, instead they want you to be just as miserable as they are. they want you to live in the same darkness and so they want you to dim your light.
we’re not doing that anymore… bye.
anyway, all that to say. never dim your light for anyone… ever…
now get that bag, bestie.